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The Kids Who Bullied Jamey Rodemeyer To Death Won’t Be Criminally Prosecuted, They’ll Just Be Suspended

Two weeks ago we told you the sad news that despite the cries of public outrage from friends, family, LGBT advocates, and even Lady Gaga,  police investigating the suicide of bullied teen Jamey Rodemeyer nd the years of offensive comments he endured online and at school could not be considered criminal and that no charges would be filed against his bullies.

Now after reading the police reports,  Jamey’s school, North High School has decided to do something. 

Superintendent Scott Martzloff . “We made the determination to take disciplinary action.”

Although he would not say how many at least two students,   possibly more have been suspended which could lead to the  possibility of long-term suspensions subject to a hearing.  Unfortunately expulsion is not an option for students of this age. (Under the age of 16)

Suspended.  Thats what happens when you steal another school’s mascot.  Not push another child to take his own life. 

If I had my way both the children involved and their neglectful parents for raising such evil little bastards would be put in stocks in the public square.  But again, unfortunately thats not an option either.

And as cynical as it sounds to me this reeks as nothing more than the school trying to save face after the fact.  To make it seem like its really doing something.  But in reality its just a token show that will have no real effect.

 If Jamey were a female sexually harassed, or a black student who was racially harassed, the consequences would have been swift, severe and immediate after the first incidents happened.

There needs to be exact state laws and exact school policies regarding LGBT bullying. And the punishment must be severe enough to make these horrible LGBT teen suicides stop.

Indianna Mother Files Lawsuit Against School Who Ignored Dead Son’s Bullying

Natalie Moore, mother of Jamarcus Bell (pictured left) who committed suicide in late October after being relentlessly bullied about his perceived sexual orientation and his race has filed a lawsuit suit against his former school, alleging that they ignored the bullying which ultimately caused him to commit suicide

Natalie Moore alleges teachers and administrators at both HSE Junior High and HSE High School ignored reports that her son, Jamarcus Bell, suffered racially-based bullying and harassment for “perceived homosexuality and emotional disability.”

According to the lawsuit, filed Nov. 21 in the U.S. District Court in Indianapolis, the African-American student was the victim of “constant and ruthless harassment and bullying from other students” who allegedly threw pieces of metal at him during a welding class, stole his shoes, his clothing, had his book bag dumped and was physically assaulted in hallways and classrooms.

I for one hope that this is the beginning of something. Schools absolutely have to be held accountable for something that they tolerate and could easily stop.  I just wish it could go one step further with prosecution of the bullies involves and their parents names in the lawsuit also.  When that begins to happen watch how quickly that this problem will be begin to lessen.


Is The Trevor Project Suggesting That LGBT Suicides Are Better Off Out Of Sight And Out of Mind?

Yesterday, on Spirit Day Interim executive director and CEO of The Trevor Project David McFarland wrote this in an Op-Ed that appeared in The Advocate stressing the point between suicide contagion and media coverage.

When we draw direct lines from sexual orientation or bullying to suicide, it can influence someone who is at-risk to assume that taking your own life is what you’re supposed to do next if you are LGBT or bullied. This may not seem rational, but attempting to take your own life is an irrational act.As a caring community, we can help avoid making suicide appear like a logical choice by putting distance between statements or stories describing instances of bullying and instances of suicide

Another factor that increases risk is suicide contagion – the link between media reports and a person’s decision to attempt suicide. In other words, the more a story of a particular victim is out there, the more likely one or more people who are at-risk will also attempt suicide. The recent tragedy in Ottawa appears to have occurred as a combination of compromised psychological well-being influenced by factors of contagion. That the young person was also the victim of anti-LGBT bullying made a bad situation even worse

Now before I start I want to say that I have a HUGE respect for the Trevor Project and the work that they do.  I really do.  But the whole subject of LGBT bullying really hits home for me because I was RELENTLESSLY bullied during my teen years.  Day in and day out.  I was called names, I was harassed, I was beaten up and yes I’ll admit that a few times I thought about killing myself. 

But when I had those feelings it was not because I had heard of others who had done it to escape, but because I felt I was so alone, and that no one was going through what  went through and that there was no help to be had. 

I understand where the Trevor Project is coming from. But suicide contagion takes its roots in a mental disorder that is not prevalent in many individuals. I’m not saying that its not dangerous or something threatening to LGBT youths.   But studies of GLBT suicides indicate a higher rate of suicide with a wide range of percentages which have ben disproportionately high for decades. But it has onlybeen  in the past year that the rest of the world has finally taken notice because the stories  of the bullied have been reported in the media and on blogs where it hasn’t in the past because of newspapers internal policies involving privacy and age laws of young offenders. And  not because of  fears of suicide contagion.

But now according to The Trevor Project reporting suicides MIGHT encourages those on the cusp of killing themselves to go ahead and do it.  But NOT reporting them leaves the impression that they are rare, isolated incidents rather than a symptom of something larger that needs correcting.

But there’s another thing that irks me greatly about yesterdays piece.  Is that it puts the suicide itself on the victim.  That it was the victims fault or that they are mentally ill  and David  McFarland does not say anything about the tortures and hell that these kids go though to get to that tipping point.  A point which I know well first hand.

Personally I am dismayed that the Trevor Project would take this rode.  “Suicide contagium” is not the problem.  Bully’s are, lack of support networks are, the fear and  feelings of being alone are,  and knowing that there is no one out there that will stop it for you and protect you.   That’s the REAL problem.  And in the past year since the stories of our lost LGBT children have come to life wondrous and excellent support networks, programs, and friends have stepped forward to help. 

Would that have happened if their stories were never told?  Would there be a “It Gets Better Project”?  Would the Trevor Project itself gotten the exposure that it needs to help these kids?  I doubt it.

As I said I do hold the Trevor Project in high regard but I think on this issue they are wrong and they need to work more on the causes of bullying, preventing it mentoring the troubled, and creating safe spaces and lives for our LGBT youth. 

These children’s stories must be told and and they cannot be forgotten or pushed into a closet so others remain unaware of the problem.  LGBT youth NEED TO KNOW that it is not only happening  to them, that suicide is the wrong choice, that there is help available, and that they are not alone.

But that’s just my opinion. 

I’m not the expert.  I was only a victim. 


AC360 – The ‘Sissy Boy’ Experiment – Part Three: Ryan Kendall And His Experiences With NARTH

In 1970, a five-year-old boy named Kirk Murphy was subjected to an ex-gay experiment. Under the care of George Rekers, , he underwent therapy to eliminate supposed effeminate behaviors.

In 1974, Lovaas and Rekers jointly published a paper about the boy they renamed “Kraig,” heralding his treatment for “childhood cross-gender problems” a success and claiming he had been transformed from a gender-confused homosexual-in-waiting to a healthy, heterosexual young man. On the back of this study, Rekers built a career as an anti-gay activist and a supposed expert in childhood sexual development. He co-founded the officially sanctioned anti-gay hate the Family Research Council and championed “ex-gay” therapy to turn gay men straight.

In 2003, Kirk, aged 38 years old and gay, committed suicide.

In Part 3 of this Special report we meet Ryan Kendall who talks about his experiences in “ex-gay” therapy and the horror that he endured in NARTH and with “psychologist” Joesph Niccolosi, and the ramifications of the “reparitive” therapy that he suffers to this day.

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Part 3

Video- CNN Investigates The "Sissy Boy Experiment": The Evils of George Alan Rekers, Ex-Gay Threapy, And The Tragic Death of Kirk Murphy

Anderson Cooper and CNN is taking a three part look at the tragic death of Kirk Murphy who, at the age of 5 was put into an experimental government-funded program at the University of California, Los Angeles in the early 1970s  to be “cured” of his effeminate ways which was run by George Alan Rekers who later in his life would be a co-founder of The Family Research Council and who would be busted for hiring male escorts because he himself was secretly gay despite the fact that he devoted his life to “curing” of homosexuality and causing harm and self destruction of many of the boys and men put in his charge.

Kirk Murphy committed suicide at the age of 38.

Below is Part 1 of Kirk Murphy’s tragic story.

12 Year Old Holly Stuckey Dies In Her Fathers Arms After Kids Torment Her With Anti-Gay and Lesbian Bullying

12 year old Holly Stuckey of northwest of Wales, died suddenly in her father’s arms after collapsing from a still unexplained medical trauma. Prior to her death, her father Clive found notes Holly wrote about being tormented at school by classmates, whom claimed she was a lesbian.

A note written in pink biro read: ‘I hate you for what you have done to me. I feel like no one.’ Mr Stuckey has since given the names of 13 teenagers to police who are investigating his daughter’s death for the coroner. Holly, who was an only child, was described as innocent, quiet and timid by her grieving family. Her father said: ‘People made fun of her because she did not know much about sex education. ‘She was an innocent girl but kids turned on her and started to call her a lesbian because she didn’t know as much as them.  Holly, who lived in Maesteg, Wales was an asthmatic but the problem was under control and not thought to be related. Mr Stuckey, who lives in Maesteg with his 47-year-old wife Lee, said: ‘We just don’t know but it could have been the emotional strain of what she was going through which brought on a heart attack. ’I have been contacted by several other parents who have told me that their children are being bullied. ’I want other parents to stand up for their children. I want to protect them.’

It’s not know what caused Holly’s sudden death, and might never be, but unquestionably the torment she suffered through wasn’t improving her quality of life and perhapos the stress was too much.

It’s so sad and tragic that so sad that the last days on earth for this child, and all the others we have lost were filled with fear and torment.