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WATCH: The Channel 4 British Gay History Documentary “50 Shades of Gay”

This year marks the 50th anniversary of the legalization of homosexuality in Britain. To celebrate this historic event, Channel 4 in the U.K. is airing a series of documentaries exploring different facets of gay life in Britain. The first episode titled “50 Shades of Gay” aired this past week.

The Guardian reports:

Rupert intertwines his own story – family, sexuality, career – into this journey, which takes him back to old haunts, and old friends. There are characters in squeaky leather, dogs called Samson and Biscuit, a little Polari. He travels to Liverpool, to the set of Hollyoaks, to meet the actors – both gay and straight – playing gay characters and find out how that goes down (fine, especially among teenage girls, interestingly).

And to the Lake District, where Paul is getting married to Graham. It’s a fascinating picture of a country that has come a long way from undercover coppers lurking in public toilets, via strange contradictions and hypocrisies, to Paul’s establishment Lakeland wedding. That’s Paul Burrell, who used to be Princess Diana’s butler – and rock – incidentally.

The problems of being gay in Britain haven’t gone away entirely. There are communities where the path to acceptance has been slower, the Jamaican one, for example, and the City of London. Best places that i have ever seen and even captured beautifully on this site http://www.exceptionalvillasa.com/jamaica/. Two-thirds of graduates who have been openly gay at uni go back into the closet when they go into business – as Lord Browne, who used to run BP, tells Rupert. Even today. That’s extraordinary, isn’t it?

Then there are new problems within the gay community itself, brought about by apps: a loss of intimacy, pressure to conform in new ways, and the fact that all this bloody acceptance has actually led to a loss of community. There was solidarity in the shadows. Now being gay is as dull as being straight.

Watch the full program (while it stays posted):

Actor Rupert Everett Warns Parents Not To Rush Into Allowing Children To Have Gender Reassignment Surgery

Actor Rupert Everett Warns Parents Not To Rush And Allow Children To Have Gender Reassignment Surgery


57-year-old gay actor Rupert Everett who currently appears in BBC1’s The Musketeers told the Sunday Times Magazine this week that children showing signs of gender dysphoria should be encouraged to embrace the “ambivalence” of their gender and that parents should take their time and not rush into gender reassignment surgery.

Everett also suggested that Caitlyn Jenner, had made a mistake in undergoing gender transition and had “no clue” what being transsexual involved.

Of his own experience, he said: “I really wanted to be a girl. Thank God the world of now wasn’t then, because I’d be on hormones and I’d be a woman. After I was 15 I never wanted to be a woman again.”

Adding that he thinks it is wrong of parents to “get medical”, Everett added: “It’s nice to be allowed to express yourself, but the hormone thing, very young, is a big step. I think a lot of children have an ambivalence when they’re very young to what sex they are or what they feel about everyone. And there should be a way of embracing it.”

Everett, he thought Caitlyn Jenner had made a mistake in going through transition and that she had “no clue” what it meant to be transgender.

As for the possible controversy that his statements might stir up in the transgender community, Everett replied: “It’s just my opinion.”

Thoughts On Being Gay In The Workforce

There are many times when I wonder how being gay will have an impact on other aspects of my life, like future careers. Honestly, I don’t know why the topic would ever come up in a therapy session, as disclosing personal information isn’t done very rarely. Usually, the only times it would even happen is to help a client see that we understand or if I worked in an environment that specialized in LGBT issues (which I would LOVE to do someday). But what about other careers, like a lawyer, a doctor, or an actor? How does that   affect what they’re doing as a profession?

For perspective, here’s Ben Baur, an up and coming actor who is gay as he weighs what being out will mean for his acting career. First, Baur weighed even coming out of the closet:

And therein lay my dilemma. Should I be who I am, Ben Baur, the out-and-proud gay man, or Ben Baur the actor who skirts around the issue of sexuality and plays the pronoun game? 

On the one hand, my sexuality is private and really isn’t anyone else’s business. I want to go to work and do a job that I am passionate about and have that be enough. However, with any measure of attention in this day and age, it’s foolish to think that who an actor is dating is never going to come up.

On the other hand, however, I am completely free to be who I am, but there’s the fear that my career would suffer because of it. Recent tweets/interviews from the likes of Bret Easton Ellis and Rupert Everett have contributed to the message that being an openly gay actor will definitely hurt your career and you will definitely be pigeonholed and typecast.

I can identify with a few of the things he’s talking about. Especially the pronoun game. I was a MASTER at it actually. Hmm…. I’ll write about it so look for that one in a couple of days (probably tomorrow). Anyway, in the end, Baur decided it was more important to live an authentic life and be out. Others like Matt Bomer have done the same.

But what about other careers, fellow readers? I’d love to hear other perspectives on this subject. Sure, it may not be as difficult being out now. There’s even websites dedicated to jobs specifically for LGBT. Some may feel that it’s unnecessary to have such sites, but until LGBT have federal sanctions such as ENDA (Employee Non-Discrimination Act), that would protect LGBT from being fired because of their sexuality, it’s a benefit, not a detriment.

So, please share your experiences in the comments!

Rupert Everett Doesn’t Like Gay Couples Being Parents And Still No One Cares What He Thinks

In who really gives a damn what you think news, uninspired “actor” Rupert Everett decides to let the world know that he does not like gay couples raising children. In a recent interview, Everett particularly pointed to gay men having children:

“I can’t think of anything worse than being brought up by two gay dads. Some people might not agree with that. Fine! That’s just my opinion.”

Then he tries to clarify that he meant no harm but fails miserably:

I’m not speaking on behalf of the gay community. In fact, I don’t feel like I’m part of any ‘community’,” (well it’s probably when you make asinine comments like this, is why people in general don’t like you moron)“The only community I belong to is humanity and we’ve got too many children on the planet, so it’s good not to have more.”

Usually I would try to present both arguments to this debate but I’m not. Not wasting you the fellow reader’s time or my time. It it such a self loathing thing to say filled with arrogance and a severe lack of insight. Also keep in mind this isn’t the first time he’s said something flat out stupid. A couple of decades ago he encouraged gay actors to stay in the closet (remorse for his own flailing career? Most likely)

Is he entitled to his own idiotic opinion? of course, everyone is allotted that privilege. Is his opinion based on research? probably not. Is this recent statement a way to get attention? Probably.