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Happy Birthday Ellen DeGeneres! Here’s Why We Love Her


Birthdays are always a time to reflect what a person has accomplished and activist, daytime tv host,  and comedian Ellen DeGeneres is a perfect example of this. HuffPostGay did a nice tribute to the now 55 year old (can you believe it?!0 celebrating her birthday today. Here are some of the reasons why Ellen is a national treasure:

12. She believes that humor should always be kind, and holds herself to a high standard of compassion. She told Good Housekeeping

“The most important thing for me is to know that I represent kindness. I’m glad I’m funny. I’m glad I make people happy, because that’s very important. But I’m proud to be known as a kind person. You listen to any monologue on late-night TV or just in general, to people talking, and there’s always a joke at someone’s expense. It’s sarcasm; it’s nasty.
Kids grow up hearing that, and they think that’s what humor is, and they think it’s OK. But that negativity permeates the entire planet.”

15. She tries not to judge others. In an interview with O, The Oprah Magazine, Ellen said: “I am saddened by how people treat one another and how we are so shut off from one another and how we judge one another, when the truth is, we are all one connected thing. We are all from the same exact molecules.”

16. She came out on “Ellen.” Coming out can be a very difficult personal step — emphasis on the personal. We love that Ellen’s announcement was filled with humor and aired publicly on her sitcom. Despite the possibility of a backlash — which followed almost immediately — she chose not to hide.

34. Her wedding to Portia was pretty much the most beautiful thing we’ve ever seen. The pair married in 2008 at their home in L.A., after dating for four years. Ellen told People: What can I say? I’m the luckiest girl in the world.”

I highly recommend checking out the rest of that list. Always lightheaded, always kind, and always funny, we wish Ellen many more years of making our would a better place.

It’s Founder Of Back2Stonewall, Will Kohler’s Birthday!!! Let’s Celebrate With Some Gingers! WOOF!



So today is our faithful leader’, the founder, owner and senior editor of Back2Stonewall, Will’s birthday!!! So I thought, other than giving him the full day off that we would celebrate this glorious day by doing what Will (and I) love to do most, and that’s looking at HOT GINGER MEN!!! Now even though I don’t post complete nudity, I am going to get as close as humanly possible all the while not faint from all this gingerman hotness! We love all that you do here Will, so take a look at all of these beautiful, mouthwatering GINGERS!!! (I hope we have enough bandwidth)

How about this ginger, Will? Do you think you’d have a fun time with him? This tatted ginger seems like he’d be up for anything..

Not convinced yet? Well, keep looking!!! He has such a peaceful disposition, doesn’t he? I’m sure some attention from you Will would go a LONG way












Had enough yet? Well, we’re just getting started. Maybe you prefer something with a little more meat on his..bones? Well take a look at him!

He’s right there, waiting for you to tell him what to do next Will. But maybe this guy will suit your needs today better….

Those deep dark eyes and beautiful ginger scruff are swoon-worthy enough. Add incredible pecs and rock hard arms just make you want to do..things. Personally I love the long ginger hair on him but if you don’t you might find these interesting:

Or this one..

Still haven’t had enough? (damn you’re greedy) Okay, Okay, I’ll keep showing them. And Will put your tongue back in your mouth, or at the very least put it to some good use!

This solid all muscle ginger looks like he’s eager to please. Furthermore..well there is nothing else to say other than HOT DAMN! Here’s more. Remember him from the other day? Well he just wants to say hello again!

And who are we to refuse such a beautiful ginger Adonis? I think he’s ready to rock you Will. Can you oblige his request?

Whatever you do today Will, I sincerely hope you enjoy it. So make sure you live it up today because the rest of the Back2Stonewall crew has you covered. We love ya buddy. Now go shake that fantastic ass of yours and go get some!




Why Do Gay Men Fear Aging?

Today I crossed another milestone as the Sun is in the exact position it was in on the day of my birth in 1980. I turned 32, which if you look at it in some philosophical or existential manner I’d question what is age but some sort of metaphysical awakening as a result of experiences. Or if you’re a nerd like me, you calculate that I’m actually 32 years and 10 months old. I’m in the in-between, not middle-age with grey hair but also not a bubbly (okay I’m still bubbly) 20-something going out to clubs every night. But I am still Sly, so at the moment nothing else about me has changed except a number.

My point is that typically anything over the age of about 28 is considered old, ancient, or archaic in the gay community. So being 32 means that basically died four years ago, came back and died again. Several friends have made awkward statements with this look of fear and impending doom on their faces as they say “How does it feel being THAT age” to even “Awww, don’t feel bad, you’re still great” What the hell do you mean STILL great?! I have ALWAYS been fabulous, regardless of my age. But honestly, Why is that? Why do we put so much emphasis on our age as a detriment, something to be feared, even hidden in shame?

Some say it’s because of our past. Michael C. LaSala, Ph.D, of Psychology Today states that it’s because as we were going through puberty, we were awkward and had to deal with our struggle to find our identity in being gay and what that meant to us while facing the oppression and negative perceptions  we faced from society as well as our loved ones. as a result, when we’ve embraced our sexuality, we use our youth and beauty as a sign of our self worth, that depreciates over time as we grow older.

LaSala’s description does sound accurate. It’s heavily ingrained in gay culture to be in tip top shape at all times and to use any anti-aging mechanisms that are at our disposal. There’s supplements, formulas used to help enhance and maintain our physiques. And unfortunately some do detrimental things to their bodies like performance drugs or even extreme and excessive plastic surgeries to keep that youthful appearance.

What do we do to stop this stigmatization that we place on age? LaSala believes that we should first remember that we are human, prone to make mistakes and that we’re not perfect. It’s also to realize that about not only ourselves but that this applies to everyone as well as knowing the difference between self critique and unrealistic expectations. Most of all, love yourself completely, flaws and all.

Okay I know that as we age, we have to be more mindful of our past than most consciously realize. Our experiences are the reason behind that. What I mean is that we accumulate a lot of stress because of our collective struggles as a community. We fight for equality and fight against discrimination every single day. That stress builds on us and according to an some, this can lead to mental disorders caused by anxiety, stress, and depression. Still this isn’t a reason to fear our age.

To sum this up, aging is not what should be feared in our community. Embrace it with all of your being and be thankful, for there are some that didn’t make it to that milestone. Think of your age as opportunities to change your life and others for the better not limitations. Always love yourself, every wrinkle, grey hair and know that is not what makes you valuable or beautiful, your heart does that.