It’s the same old story that has happened too many times where a loving devoted couple are making wedding plans that are interrupted because of someone with “religious convictions” preventing them to provide a service they’re paid to do. After proposing to her fiance, Lindsay Tadych, at Disney World Jami Howard wanted to make a custom made Disney themed wedding book for the guests at their upcoming wedding. Howard reported that correspondence between her and the business owner she was commissioning to design the wedding book changed once she found out she was a lesbian. Here’s the response the owner gave the couple:
After talking with my pastor and praying about the situation, I decided that I shouldn’t design your guestbook for you.
Please know that I did take this into much thought though. Because I am a Christian and I believe that marriage should be between a man and a woman, I feel that designing a customized guestbook for you two will be against my belief and will mean that who I am and my business supports gay marriages.
Howard later attempted to contact the higher ups in the Etsy company only to receive a vague non-answer to her inquiry of this discrimination incident that we’ve heard too many times before:
As you can imagine, legal issues, such as matters concerning discrimination, are often very complex. We respect each community member’s right to their personal opinions and beliefs, and with 25 million members around the world, expect that some members may disagree with each other. The opinions and beliefs of members may not reflect those of Etsy, Inc. or Etsy employees. If a member thinks that discrimination has occurred and constitutes a legal infraction in their location, they may choose to address the issue directly with the other party, or contact an attorney for legal assistance.
Now the question is was this authorized, even sanctioned by the owners of this company since they do have the right to refuse service to anyone so long as its done through the proper channels? If that is the case then this company is practicing the same amount of tolerance that Chick Fil A so righteously claims. There’s no definite answer to that but why not take this opportunity to address whether or not this was a religious beliefs of one person working for the company or if this is a company motto?
Here’s a silver lining for the story of the Oregon couple denied a cake for their wedding because the owner of Sweet Cakes Bakery, Aaron Klein, doesn’t believe in marriage equality and equal rights. Duff Goldman, a renown baker and star of Ace of Cakes, decided to step in and help the couple. Here’s more from HuffPost:
In the wake of the incident, Baltimore-based pastry chef and “Ace of Cakes” star Duff Goldman is sending out an open offer to the couple (whose names have not been released) saying he’ll bake and transport their wedding cake completely free of charge.
The executive chef of the Baltimore-based Charm City Cakes told HuffPost Live, “I saw this story and I was like, “Wait — I can do something, there’s injustice involving a cake!”
Noting that Charm City has been making same-sex wedding cakes for some time, Goldman added, “For a cake decorator to really feel like he really needed to take a stand…it just makes absolutely no sense. It’s petty, it’s small…this man has wrapped up his hatred in the cloak of religion.”
Always great to see someone reach out and try to right someone else’s wrong. For a reminder, here’s what Klein had to say about the incident:
“I believe that marriage is a religious institution ordained by God, I’ll sell [gay people] stuff…I’ll talk to them, it’s fine. I’d rather have my kids see their dad stand up for what he believes in then to see him bow down because one person complained.”
But why would he even say that he can and would sell gay people stuff and contradicts that? And then he talks about his kids and how he wants to set a good example for them? How is treating someone different because they don’t believe in the same things you do setting a good example? You’re not teaching your kids anything but to act like they’re better than everyone else Klein. Stop trying to make this anything other than being a bigot.
In this is ridiculous news, a lesbian couple, Ariel and Shawnee McPhail, received a letter from the owner of a restaurant condemning their sexuality after dining out in New Bern, North Carolina last month. And to add insult, the owner of said restaurant Ed McGovern, waited until after the couple had eaten their meal at The Stingray Cafe and paid for their bill. So he obviously didn’t have a problem accepting their money but still felt compelled to condemn their lifestyle? Anyway, here’s the letter in it’s entirety:
“God said in the last days that man and wom[a]n would be lover of self, more [than] the lover of God.
That man and woman would have unnatural [affection] for one another. Then, the coming of the Son of Man, who is Jesus. So please, look at your life. See how it hurt[s] everyone around you. And ask the Lord to open your eye[s] before it [is] to[o] late.
The Love of Christ
P.S. my daughter also was gay. It destroy[ed] her life and my grandson.”
Rightfully disturbed by the incident, Shawnee McPhail had this to say in response to the unwarranted insult to her family:
“First of all, we didn’t kiss. We don’t kiss in public. We were holding hands. Secondly, if I did kiss my wife in public, what married couple would you go to and say, ‘how dare you. You cannot hold hands and you cannot kiss in public therefore you deserve my judgement.'”
No word yet on whether the couple plans on taking legal action for harassment but if they do then I would’t blame them. I don’t know if it was the fact that McGovern may or may not have a lesbian daughter or that was made up but his customers don’t really need to know or care what he thinks is appropriate. He’s there provide a service not his messy commentary about God’s law so zip it McGovern. Nobody asked you.