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Rep Matt Salmon’s Gay Son Accepts His Father’s Opinion On Marriage Equality

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Several weeks ago, a lot of media attention surrounding Republican Rob Portman who now supports same sex marriage because he has a gay son. Even more attention was drawn to Arizona Congressman Matt Salmon because of his inability to support same sex marriage even with him having an openly gay son. Now his son, Matt R. Salmon is speaking on behalf of his father and is respecting that he does not share the same views. Here’s more:

Matt R. Salmon, 24, tells AZ Central that his father “doesn’t support gay marriage, but that doesn’t make him anti-gay at all…my father and I have a great relationship, he’s one of my close friends.”

Salmon, who is a third-year medical student, reveals that he attended reparative therapy while an undergrad at Arizona State University. His decision to end reparative therapy created a rift in his relationship with his conservative father: “We still had a loving relationship, but it was difficult for him to accept and so it was a rough patch.”

He also says that he and his father “have the best relationship we’ve ever had,” though he confesses he wishes he had the same support that Sen. Rob Portman of Ohio, who now supports same-sex marriage, is providing for his gay son. Still, he notes, “It took me 20 years before I was OK with myself…I can’t expect anybody else to do it overnight or change their minds in any sooner amount of time.”

There has to be a lot of emotions surrounding situations like this. On the one hand, some would suggest that Matt should not be at all concerned with what his father thinks as instead of accepting him the way that God created him, he tried to change that. But cutting off a parent that way is easier said than done.

And on the other, maybe all of what Salmon needs is more time. He supposedly has reached a point to where he and his son are able to communicate openly and honestly about who they are and what they believe. Maybe as he gets to know his son the more opportunities to see the error in his ways.

In any case, as a politician, Salmon should have the wisdom to see that same sex marriage is not a religious issue but a government/legal issue. So his definition or any other created by religion has no business in this debate. Regardless of the good relationship they both say they have now this has to still be hurtful that his father does nor believe he should have every right like all other citizens of this country. But again, maybe he just needs more time to evolve as Portman and the rest of the country. Let’s all hope it doesn’t take too long.

More On Magic Johnson Loving & Supporting His Gay Son

Over the past week, news of NBA all star Magic Johnson and his son who is gay has been all over the media. Even more so the attention has been on how loving and accepting Johnson has been since it was discovered that his son Earvin was spotted out with his boyfriend around Los Angeles. In a recent interview, Johnson gave a more elaborate statement on his brief yet succinct statement on his son’s sexuality earlier this week. Here’s more:

The former Los Angeles Lakers superstar said he knew EJ was gay before he told him. So when his son was about 13 years old, he sat him down to have “the talk.”

“I told him, ‘Hey, we are here to support you, man. We are gonna love you no matter who you are, what you do. We just want you to love yourself and also make sure that you have all the information,'” he told TMZ’s Harvey Levin in a candid interview. “And that’s what I wanted to give him. Just provide him with advice and guidance.”

Magic explained that EJ was worried about getting his father’s support. He admitted his son previously had some trouble coming out to those outside his family. After all, as the son of a public figure, the spotlight could be intense.

The biggest reason that this story has garnered widespread attention is not because Earvin is the son of an NBA legend or because the incessantly aggressive media hungry for a story. And it’s not because this is an African American family that is contesting the wide held belief of our society that African Americans are inherently more homophobic (which is not true). The reason that this story is making such huge news is because of how unaffected Magic Johnson and his son are about his son being gay. All we truly see is a father that loves and accepts his son no matter what. Unconditional and irrevocable love. And that is the way it should be. It’s just a story about a loving family.