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New Study Finds Gay Ageism Linked Depression Is Rampant in the Mature LGBT Community

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A new study about “internalized gay ageism,” or the sense that one feels denigrated or depreciated because of aging in the context of a gay male identity, by Allen J. LeBlanc, Frederick A. Harig, Ilan H. Meyer, and Richard G. Wight claims to identify an unexplored aspect of sexual minority stress specific to midlife and older gay men.

Using a social stress process framework, they examined the association between gay ageism and depressive symptoms, and whether one’s sense of mattering mediates or moderates this association.

Their conclusion mirrors what many older gay men will tell you.  That despite the fact that they have traversed and helped make unparalleled historical changes across their adult lives and paved the way for younger generations of gay men to live in a time of less discrimination. they have become socially invisible and devalued in their later years by that very same generation.

Not discussed in the study above is another huge factor that lends to depression in older gay males today is AIDS Survivor Syndrome.

Dr. Robert Jay Lifton, a leading authority on survivor experiences who wrote the National Book Award-winning “Death in Life: Survivors of Hiroshima,” says, “The parallels between gay men who have escaped AIDS and survivors of Hiroshima and the Holocaust are striking.”

Described as  “a secondary epidemic”  of AIDS-related bereavement.  Experts say the most common symptoms of survivor’s syndrome include guilt–caused by a person’s unconscious sense that his survival was purchased at the cost of another’s–as well as depression and “psychic numbing.”

Survivor’s syndrome is not only limited to older gay men who have tested negative. But also to health care workers, lesbians, gay men who do not know their antibody status, gay men who have tested positive and others who were personally affected by the AIDS epidemic.

For these individuals, even today 30+ years after the plague began, “the subconscious mind’s irrational sense of guilt is telling them that they do not deserve to enjoy life while their lovers, friends, and community around them suffered and died,” said Dr. James Titchener, an authority on survivor’s syndrome at the University of Cincinnati.

Larry Kramer, playwright and AIDS activist, summarized the feeling in a Gay Pride Day speech  in Boston: “Don’t you ask yourself quite often the big question: ‘Why am I still alive? At some point I did something the others did. How have I escaped?’

How can the younger generation and others in our community to treat LGBT elders so badly after all they have done and all they have lived through.

The shame of this is on the community itself for not cherishing, respecting, and utilizing the courage and strength of the older LGBT generation that is still with us today.


Rosanne Barr Speaks Out Against The Mormon Church, Marie Osmond, and Hypocrisy

“Marie Osmond’s poor gay son killed himself because he had been told how wrong and how sick he was every day of his life by his church and the people in it. Calling that ‘depression’ is a lie! Yet the Osmonds still talk lovingly about their church, saying nothing about its extremely anti-gay Crusade. Marie also has a gay daughter! Hey, I want her and all the gay kids in the world to know that they are just fine being gay and that they deserve love and respect instead of insults and rebuke! I have gay people in my family and my circle of friends and I am kicking bigot ass and taking names! … Yet, even though the people they say they love the most in all of their public displays and speeches (THEIR KIDS AND FAMILY!!) are gay,– their own children, for crying out loud- these people cannot find the christian decency and compassion within themselves to stop their hypocritical gay bashing!! How sickening. I know so many Mormon kids who were gay and committed suicide, and I just cannot and will not stay quiet in order to not offend bigots anymore. It is all so terribly depressing. Marie please don’t talk about how your faith in your church has helped you get through this one! Please get some integrity and tell that church of yours that you will leave it and stop giving it ten percent of your money if they don’t stop trying to destroy your kids’ and all gay people’s civil rights and dreams and hopes!!” – Roseanne Barr

Thank you Roseanne, for telling it like it IS!

Every parent, grandparent, uncle, aunt, and family member of gay children needs to stop giving money to their church.  Mormon, Catholic, Baptist, ect….

NEVER FORGET.  It was a Mormon who tied Matthew Shepard to the fence while a Baptist that beat him to the point oif death.

Missing Growing Pains Actor’s Andrew Koenig’s Body Found In Vancouver

Sad News.

After more than a week, CNN is reporting that Andrew Koenig’s body has been found in Vancouver’s Stanley Park. The family said he was depressed at the time of his disappearance. Andrew’s father, Walter Koenig, told reporters at a press conference that his son took his own life. His body was found by one of his friends doing a final sweep of Stanley Park

Rest In Peace Andy.

Boner Update – Missing Actor Andrew Koneig’s Parents Drop Out Of Larry King Live At Last Second.

Parents of missing, depressed Growing Pains star Andrew Koenig were supposed to be on Larry King Live. But just two minutes before their interview, they walked out of the studio. 
Towards the end of the show, Larry King Live went to commercial with a teaser for an upcoming interview with Walter Koenig (Star Trek’s Checkov) and his wife, Judith. But when the show returned from break, they had abruptly left the Vancouver studio where they were going to be interviewed. 
Walter Koenig had been releasing updates via his website, most recently detailing that he had received a worryingly despondent email from his clinically depressed son on Feb. 16th. The obvious conclusion: After more than a week with no real developments, they got some news about their son, good or bad, that obviated the need for an interview.
Lets just hope its good.
Hang in there Andy.

BONER IS MISSING! – Andrew Koenig,Who Played ‘Boner’ on ‘Growing Pains,’ Is Missing

Police and worried loved ones are searching for actor Andrew Koenig, best known for playing “Boner” on ‘Growing Pains,’ who went missing in Vancouver a week ago.

Koenig, 42, was last seen on Feb. 14 and he missed his flight out of the Olympic host city two days later, according to a statement from TV host Dave Holmes on MaximumFun.org. Authorities are searching for the actor, who has recently been working as a camera operator on the comedy podcast, ‘Never Not Funny.’

While in Vancouver, he was staying with burlesque artist Jenny Magenta, who took to Facebook on Friday to ask for help in finding Koenig, whose parents told her he may be “severely depressed” about something.

For four years, Koenig played Mike Seaver’s affable best friend Richard “Boner” Stabone on ‘Growing Pains.’ He was written off the show in 1989 when “Boner” signed up for the Marine Corps.  He’s not gay, and probably not even Bisexual but he is a part of my 80’s childhood and IMO he was always much cuter than Kirk Cameron.  Also he might be in trouble, depression is a terrible thing, believe me I knowm  so I thought I should give a shoutout to anyone out there who might see or run into him.

Anyone with any information about Andrews whereabouts please contact Det. Raymond Payette of the Vancouver PD at 604-717-2534 or ask him to please contact his family