The Lost Men: Gay Men Who Survived the Plague and AIDS Survivor Syndrome
Imagine being in the prime of your life living a fun and newly liberated existence and in a matter of years having that stolen from you and watching your friends die one by one and wondering if you will be next. Living through the pain, fear and heartache of it for over a decade, day in and day out. Now fast forward 25 years later. Despite surviving the living hell on earth that you endured there are very few who understand what you feel except the small majority of fellow survivors. You are constantly haunted by those black days and are haunted by the ghosts and memories of those you loved and lost and you are filled with almost a guilt of having survived while all those around you were snatched from this world.
This is AIDS Survivor Syndrome.
AIDS Survivor Syndrome (ASS which is a horrible acronym) describes the spectrum of sustained trauma survivorship. It is psychological state resulting from living through HIV/AIDS pandemic affecting those who made it through the plague unscathed and those who became HIV-positive in the 1980s and 1990s, when having HIV was considered a terminal diagnosis.
AIDS Survivor Syndrome is not PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder). ASS is a “syndemic” of psycho-social health issues that exists on a spectrum. It varies by degrees of intensity, and it affects those who survived the worst decades of HIV. differently and at different times. The sustained accumulation of trauma from living through the early decades of the disease distinguishes AIDS Survivor Syndrome from the more commonly known Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), in which trauma typically involves a single event or events of limited duration. PTSD is misdiagnosis or a partial diagnosis at best.
What signs and symptoms define AIDS Survivor Syndrome?
· Lack of Future Orientation
· Panic from Unexpected Older Age
· Sexual risk-taking
· Self-destructive Behavior
· Substance Abuse
· Social Withdrawal & Isolation
· Persistent Negative Thoughts like Deep Regret and overwhelming Shame
· Survivor’s Guilt
· Cognitive Impairment Such as Poor Concentration and Loss of Immediate memory
· Loss of Ability to Enjoy Life or Anhedonia
· Deep Sadness
· Emotional Numbness
· Anxiety & Nervousness
· Irritability or Flashes of Anger
· Difficulty Falling Asleep or Staying Asleep
· Personality Changes
· Feeling Tense, “On Guard” or Hypervigilance.
· Low Self-Esteem & Self-Worth
· Sense of Hopelessness
Many ollder gay men who came though the plague years unscathed suffer from severe survivor guilt and anger which is common among survivors of natural disasters, combat, and epidemics. It refers to the feeling that many survivors have that they have done something wrong in surviving when others did not.. This is something that a community as a whole needs to be aware and understand because only with support and understanding can this condition be treated. The demonization of the older LGBT community by the younger community also adds extra weight to the depression and other issues that longterm AIDS Survivor Syndrome sufferers experience.
There are few published studies looking into AIDS Survivor Syndrome. However, in recent years, LTS themselves have begun to come together and share about their lives in the aftermath of the epidemic’s darkest years. The evidence that a particular condition has been affecting them is too overwhelming to ignore. Unfortunately, few published studies means few health care providers or therapists are aware of the signs that an individual is experiencing. So we as a community must be aware of this condition and lend support to those suffering this syndrome, like myself.
I have seen my darkest days. Friends dying one by one. And to this day I wonder why I was spared when others were not. And there are many more gay men out there like myself who although we survived those black years we will always be haunted by them and have to live with that until the day we die and see our friends once again.