“Dear white gays: Stop stealing black female culture. You are not a black woman, and you do not get to claim either blackness or womanhood. There is a clear line between appreciation and appropriation. I need some of you to cut it the hell out. Maybe, for some of you, it’s a presumed mutual appreciation for Beyoncé and weaves that has you thinking that I’m going to be amused by you approaching me in your best ‘Shanequa from around the way’ voice. I don’t know. What I do know is that I don’t care how well you can quote Madea, who told you that your booty was getting bigger than hers, how cute you think it is to call yourself a strong black woman, who taught you to twerk, how funny you think it is to call yourself Quita or Keisha or for which black male you’ve been bottoming — you are not a black woman, and you do not get to claim either blackness or womanhood. It is not yours. It is not for you. So, you aren’t a strong black woman, or a ghetto girl, or any of that other foolery that some of you with trash Vine accounts try to be. It’s okay. You don’t have to be. No one asked you to be. You weren’t ever meant to be. What you can be, however, is part of the solution. Check your privilege. Try to strengthen the people around you.” –Sierra Mannie, writing for The Daily Mississippian and then gleamed by TIME.con
I can’t tell you how privileged gay men feel when they’re walking down the street, hear “hey faggot!” and look over to see a group of men crossing the street intent on putting you in an ICU. The sense of privilege is just dizzying as you run down the street hoping there’s a cab you can jump into. We’re so silly us gays. All we have to do is stay in the closet and hide who we are and “inconveniences” like this wouldn’t happen.
And as for the bottoming comment. Used in her context its, homophobic,”bottoming” as in that, the idea that taking a “woman’s” role during sex makes you a lesser person) Glad they gave her a platform to share that.
I personally am shocked by certain black gay activists who scream about the “privleged white gays” and the rift between the black and white community who are joing about and supporting Mannie’s article especially when they are more privileged and assimilated into the straight white world than I am. You really appall me at the moment.
Also perhaps someone could clue in the clueless Ms. Mannie that most of the current black female culture is stolen from drag culture of the 1960’s and 1970’s. *snap beyatch*