Will My Beloved South Ever Evolve On Gay Rights?


Sly Merritt has a BA in psychology/sociology. MA in clinical psychology. He's a flip flop wearing hippy with a peaceloving mindset. Even pacifists like him know when it's time to do all we can for LGBTQ equality. Sly's views are all opinions not advice.

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  1. IDG says:

    As a born Southerner, I too remember the thin veneer of politeness and gentility most Southerners are taught. It masks an underlying hatred, disdain, and dismissal of anyone who is not like them. It is based on religious minded bigotry and provincial, outdated morality. It is the reason two of my friends committed suicide after they came out to their families. James killed himself in 1997 because he was sent to a “tough love, Christian” youth retreat so they could pray for “the demons inside him” to release him from sin. He was brainwashed into hating himself and in the end, it was too much for him to bear. Denny killed himself after he came out to his parents and was disowned, then assaulted by his brother and two of his friends. They beat him, broke his leg and tossed him in a parking lot and left him there. Two years later he was not allowed to attend his grandmothers funeral. He killed himself in 2005 after his entire family erased him from memory simply because of how he was born.

    That is the South I grew up in and remember. The only way people, all over America, are going to change, is when they see the gay and lesbian community for what it truly is: human. We are their sons and daughters, siblings, parents, grandparents, friends and co-workers. We are the guy sitting in the car next to them at the stoplight. We are the girl at the pharmacy, the man walking his dog and the teacher who works to build up young minds. We are the same as them.

    • Sly says:

      Thank you for sharing. I am deeply sorry for your losses. It further saddens me to say that I have similar stories of people I knew who were faced with the same precarious situations and had the same, tragic outcome. I believe it’s one of the things that made me embrace my sexuality even more because I refused to have the same happen to me. I won’t kid and say that the solution to this backward way of thinking will come easy but we have to keep working for it and showing everyday how our lives are no different than anyone else’s.

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