Will You Straight Actors PLEASE Shut The Hell Up About Being “Uncomfortable” Playing Gay Roles?


Sly Merritt has a BA in psychology/sociology. MA in clinical psychology. He's a flip flop wearing hippy with a peaceloving mindset. Even pacifists like him know when it's time to do all we can for LGBTQ equality. Sly's views are all opinions not advice.

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4 Responses

  1. Chad says:

    Hi Sly, I didn’t interpret Nicolas’ article as suggesting that being gay was a chore, or that playing a gay role is trying. What I got from it was that he found some unconscious prejudice bubbling up in him and it made him question his identity as an open-minded person. So he wrote an article about it as a way to start working though it. You seem to like writing for an audience too, can you relate to his desire for public exposition and why it might be therapeutic for him?

    Your signature says that you’re studying clinical psychology. Forgive me for not knowing what that entails exactly, but I’ll assume you’ve had some experience with psychotherapy. If you were Nicolas’ therapist, and he expressed the same feelings that he does in his article, is this how you would respond to him? Telling him he’s an asshole? Is hetero guilt so irredeemable?

    • Sly says:

      Hey Chad, thank you for taking time to give a response. That most likely was not his intent but it definitely, at least to me, was the way his article read. Even now when you refer to the process and despite that sound inference, reading that Brown has family and friends that are gay yet there is still a lot of exposition on why Brown has the this issue is problematic. This vague (possibly just poorly worded) process, suggests that there is something about homosexuality he can’t get pass. And it feels that his recognition of this process is enough without defining possible solutions. And while he may be making an attempt to process where that comes from, it only states why he as well as others give the same justifications of fear and ignorance.

      The approach in general is detached and the apology shallow. It’s disconcerting hearing an actor make instances and examples of how it’d be easier to portray an abuser but finds difficulty in kissing another man. The etiology may be due to many reasons but I dare not speculate where it comes from as that is not the function of any article I write here. And while yes I do have experience with psychotherapy, that also is not my function as a writer here for this or any other site. It is merely my opinion and does not reflect my training or anything resembling a professional opinion.

      When you share opinions, like that of Brown, you have to do so at a clear resounding level that provides a clear answer to the dilemma. Too much in our society is it seen to have negative views about homosexuality, not just from oppressors but also positions of weak introspection like Brown.

      • Chad says:

        I can see where you’re coming from. I have my own issues with his article. But I felt like it came from an honest place, and I think that’s worth encouraging vs tearing down.

  2. Icsifil says:

    It’s just really privileged.
    Gay people have to play straight all the time, because that’s what out there to play. Seeing a straight actor whine about playing a gay role is sort of like seeing Rathborne whinging about how they hope the audience suspends disbelief for his yellow face or seeing some male action-fan complaining about not being able to envision himself in the part of a woman lead-film.
    It just makes me want to grab them on the shoulders and shout “We have to deal with that all the time while you continuously get represented! Stop complaining that we actually are being included!”

What do you think?