In an example of what happens when you let “celebrities” speak unfetted for a socil and civil movements actress Sex In The City’s Cynthia Nixon recently described herself as “gay by choice” in a New York Times magazine interview, and set off a storm of reexaminations of the evidence on whether homosexuality is a matter of nature or nurture, and threw a verbal monkey wrench into the legal question of gay rights..
“‘I’ve been straight and I’ve been gay, and gay is better.’ And they tried to get me to change it, because they said it implies that homosexuality can be a choice. And for me, it is a choice and you don’t get to define my gayness for me. A certain section of our community is very concerned that it not be seen as a choice, because if it’s a choice, then we could opt out. I say it doesn’t matter if we flew here or we swam here, it matters that we are here and we are one group and let us stop trying to make a litmus test for who is considered gay and who is not.”
Well Cynthia “you don’t get to define my gayness for me” either or anyone else in the LGBT community for that fact so why even discuss it in the New York Times?
Alot of Cynthia’s misguided talk might have to do with the simple fact that women have an easier time choosing which sex they enjoy intercourse with more than gay men does and and that just comes down to biological plumbing. No really think about it. Even if a woman was not attracted to a man she could still have sex with them and try it. But a gay man who is not attracted to women physically is unable to and enjoy it so there is no choice so they are truly born gay.
If Nixon is BI thats fine and THAT is her choice. If she is BI and leans to women that is THAT is your choice also. But many of us aren’t and she should not be speaking out for a community on a subject that is so potically charged especially when her biggest claim to fame is getting advice from Carrie Bradshaw.
Miranda, I mean Nixon needs to learn how to choose her words better, because she fell into a right-wing trap, willingly. When the religious right says it’s a choice, they mean you quite literally choose your sexual orientation, you can change it at will, and that’s bull.
Of course she is speaking for HERSELF but as a spokesperson for the LGBT Community which she became when she started fighting for marriage equality in New York she should choose her words thoughtfully and carefully.
Sexual orientation is far more complex than laying on a bed and spreading your legs with a man or a women and picking which one that you like best. And in reality that is much easier for a woman to do with both sexes than a gay man. And when you say things like “being gay is a choice” and using incendiary buzzwords that don’t really mean what you’re trying to say – when you try to define the rest of us by your incredibly poorly chosen, and incorrect, words – you hurt us all by just giving ammunition to the enemy